Ladies: you find yourselves spinning your phone on the kitchen table, waiting. It’s 11pm and still no word back. Not even a call. Why? Was it something you did? Did you have food in your teeth? Oh, god you talked about your ex boyfriend too much didn’t you…
Now, I’ve been on both sides of the coin here. One side is more pleasant than the other, and I think you know which side it feels better to be on. Well, I certainly know that it feels better to be chased, because it makes you feel wanted and maybe even a little more attractive. So, from my point of view there are a few reasons why guys don’t call back
Let’s be honest here.
- For some guys; they like the confidence boost of getting a text from a girl who likes them (just as well as the girl of course, I imagine). A guy doesn’t text/call back because: he doesn’t want to be considered as ‘clingy’, he doesn’t want you to get tired of him, he has other options, or just plain not interested.
- The dates that you’ve gone on with ‘Mr. Right’ may not have gone how you expected… It’s not necessarily your fault though! Sometimes us guys find faults with even the best things. Don’t take this as a sign to change yourselves ladies. Take it as a sign to keep being yourself.
- Have the courage to show your interest! Ladies sometimes you give us men too much credit. We all aren’t as smart as we look… Especially in my case: I can’t always tell when a woman is flirting with me. Crazy isn’t it? But, it’s a fact. So whether your with him or not drop little hints that you are interested. Or in my case drop HUGE hints. A lot of guys get discouraged and give up after a while. So take a chance!
- Let’s face it a lot of guys are jerks. Period. Having ‘relations’, ‘intercourse’, ‘hooking up’, whatever you want to call it guys think about it. It’s in our DNA to want to reproduce so don’t hate us for that. Just look for the signs that a guy is only trying to hook up. I believe you are all intelligent enough to tell the difference, but for those of you who want examples I will provide them: only calling at night, changing the conversation to innuendos or conversation of a sexual nature, coming over late at night only, not willing to hang out outside of the bedroom, etc. Honestly, there are people out there who don’t have your best interests at heart. All guys don’t want to just get in your pants.
I don’t want to crush you with information, but this is my professional male opinion to help you better understand the mind of a man. Also you must understand these are just archetypes and things I’ve done or seen in my experience. Speaking of experience: everyone’s experiences are different and these may not pertain to you at all!
Guys don’t call back. Girls don’t call back. That’s the way things go. Don’t dwell on it.
The biggest piece of advice I can give you is: be yourself. One day you will find the person who accepts and loves you for who you are. Mr. Rights aren’t Mr. Rights until a Mrs. Right meets him (even then there are still a lot of Re-Rights). So, tonight don’t waste time spinning your phone and wondering what you did wrong, because there are a thousand reasons what could have gone wrong. What I am saying is: just be you and relax.