Month: October 2012
“You can never cross the ocean unless you have the courage to lose sight of the shore.”
I had a chance to talk to my amazing friend Victoria the other day, and over the course of our conversation she expressed an uncomfortable feeling about pushing her boundaries. Like all of us I knew exactly what she meant. I had to remind her (and myself) that no matter how uncomfortable we feel we must ALWAYS push our limits to reach our full potential. You don’t plateau if you are always reaching for the next peak. Push yourself and push your ship off the shore, and you’ll be amazed what you find out there!
As if the title doesn’t set this off oh so nicely. Insert chuckle here.
What, I wanted to write about today was irrational love. There are several different directions I could take this, but I will only chose one. It is an incredible thing to have a powerful love for someone even when the uncertainty of that love being mutual. You can’t stop your heart no matter how hard you try. Your heart loves who it wants to love. Many a times I’ve bemoaned this fact of life, but it’s really not that bad.
So, let me give you an example of what I mean. The example I will use for you good jesters and harlequins is a dear friend of mine who, for all intents and purposes, will be called Lexi. I’ve known her for several years and to say I love her is an understatement. We started off as acquaintances and then later on became friends (and then great friends yada yada). For the longest time I knew that I loved her, maybe at one time romantically, but now I love her as if she were my own flesh and blood. Even though my feelings for her were strong I didn’t know (or at least couldn’t tell) if she loved me. It bothered me that I always felt a disconnect with her like my love for her was a one way street. Over time I knew that she saw me not only as someone interested in dating her, but really loving her on a higher level. Someone who wanted to be there for her think and thin. I can’t imagine life without her. Much like her being a part of my family like I mentioned earlier.
Even if Lexi doesn’t love me the way I love her I will always be there for her. I can’t explain how I could love her the way I do even when there is distance that separates us my heart will always be with her to help her, to comfort, and protect. It doesn’t make sense. Even when her feelings for me weren’t clear. I now know that’s the love that I will never truly understand, and that in my eyes is not a problem. I believe our hearts were built with enough room to love without rhyme or reason.
What, I’m trying to say is: don’t let your love turn sour. Loving someone is what makes us human. Even if the person you want to love doesn’t or can’t love you back you can still care for them in your own way. Or maybe you can try to show them that you’re worthy of their love friendship or otherwise. Either way your heart will let you move on or stay with the person you can’t let go. There should be no regrets when loving someone.
Love, in my case, gives me purpose. It keeps me going. My love for Lexi truly is an irrational love but one that I can count myself lucky to have. She is an amazing young woman whom it would be anyones utmost pleasure to know. If I would have fought my heart I wouldn’t be here calling her my dearest sister. irrationality goes hand in hand with love so when you find someone you love maybe you should follow your heart.
“Love is never lost. If not reciprocated, it will flow back and soften and purify the heart.” Washington Irving
What wisdom can you find greater than kindness.
It doesn’t take a genius to extend an open hand (I would know). Sometimes the most complex problems are solved by the simplest of gestures. If we all could only put ourselves and our wants away for a minute and work on focusing on others kindness will start to play more of an active role from the inside out.
(PQD: abbreviation for POSITIVE QUOTE OF THE DAY!)
“Every day you have the opportunity to learn and experience some-thing and some-one new. Seize the opportunity. Learn and experience everything you can, and use it to change the world.” Rodney Williams
What a great way to encapsulate my post about personal growth and appreciation! This quote sums up, to me, just how much of an opportunity we have EVERY DAY to be the change we want to see in the world. We are the difference makers. We are the people are kids will read about who changed the face of the earth in a positive way.
Be the hero you were meant to be.
First, and foremost I would like tot thank my followers and readers:
- Cole Ryan
- Rebecca Hardesty
- Zac Egs
- Dr. Shin
- Make Something Mondays
- (And to the rest of all you wonderful people reading this post!)
Without you my drive to write this blog would surely be diminished,
and if you like my blog I highly encourage you to check out all of these blogs as well. They are all insightful, colorful, and fun! Check them out I assure you will not be disappointed.
Now to the Personal Growth section! Hooray!
I find it interesting that this blog has turned out to be more than just a “social experiment” or just a comedy blog like I had originally intended. It has become a symbol of personal growth for me.
“Well, how is that?” you ask. Calm down and I’ll tell you! Dear friends, I had to answer this question before I could even begin to start writing this article. It really came down to my values, because my values have defined who I am and how I wanted to approach this blog. Yes, I could have turned this article or this blog into an ego trip or a hipsters paradise, but I wanted it to be more than that. I wanted this blog to become a place of inspiration, humor, positivity, hope, and a little bit of my life all mixed in.
My three main goals for this blog:
- Making a difference
- Having a goal in mind
I wanted this blog to be about creation merely for the fact that as a writer you create a story. A blank canvas for your audience to paint with their imaginations (sounds good huh?). Like planting a seed in the ground and nurturing it until it’s a great oak is the greatest feeling one can experience. Just like the metaphor of the tree this blog has blossomed through you, my readers, and I want to share this positivity and energy with everyone who will read it.
When they read this blog I hope that I will make a positive difference in their lives. Through positive quotes of the day, the positive weekly challenges, and other positive venues this could affectionately be considered an escape from the bleak headlines of the news. I want the person who reads this blog to feel better than when they stumbled here. My words could be destructive and derisive, but I am better than that, and that’s what my readers deserve from me. Maybe, just maybe I will change the mind of one and that will spread throughout. To put it simply; a better world is what I have in mind.
The world now is in need of as much help and positivity as I can give it: that is my goal. My goal is to touch people’s’ lives and keep this bad boy going! The goal is to nurture this blog and the people who take part in it with me. A sort of blog family if you will. It may seem unrealistic to some and maybe idealistic, but nothing is impossible if we work together.
This blog has evolved into a living diary of my thoughts in hopes that others will take from my words and use them in a positive way.
Thank you for reading.