PQD: “Love grows where my Rosemary goes.” Wait… Thats not John Lennon?

“Miracles occur naturally as expressions of love. The real miracle is the love that inspires them. In this sense everything that comes from love is a miracle.”

Marie Lloyd

Some of you may be familiar with the song, quite simply titled, as ‘Love’ by John Lennon. The message discusses an individuals understanding of love, and consequently, reflects the authors desire for love.

Have you ever stopped and wondered why you loved that person despite whatever transgressions this person committed against you? Have you ever considered what it is in your life that you truly love?

Reflecting on these things  and the recent events of my life; I have a few observations of my own. Love is as simple and complex as expression. To feel love without expression is to rob yourself of giving love, and others to receive that love. To falsify that love with a “pseudo-love” in an attempt to conform someone into your thinking is wrong. If there’s anything that human nature will teach us is that we will not be fooled by a fake product, because the results of that product are also fallacy.

The answer is the true expression of love. That is to act and speak in a way of loving others. That means searching out their feelings by taking an interest in them, and addressing their needs.

If you do not feel love towards another: take the time to understand their needs regardless. Or if that goal cannot be attained; remove yourself from the situation. There is no need to complicate and irritate a situation that is non-existent.

My friends, never give up on someone you cannot go a day without thinking about. It is one of the oldest literary clichés known to man, but its wisdom holds true. But, that doesn’t mean hold on to something that is not there. It takes a pairing of  our intellect along with our heart to find out the difference between mutual love and unrequited love. Love becomes problematic when we only employ one of these.

It is a miracle that love works the way it does, and when we experience it fully (i.e: the love of a child) it drives us to reach for a higher existence. Encouragement of another stems from freely given love, and that positive energy feeds our very souls. Have you ever felt a surge of creative inspiration by viewing something beautiful? It is that very feeling of being impassioned, emblazoned, and empowered.

Those that offer you love that inspires and sustains you is love you should nurture in good times and bad. Make yourself available to recieve love and give love. That, my Jesters and Halequinns, is the nature of a miracle we partake in every day, and by the Grace of God, we are lucky enough to recieve.

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PQD: What time does positivity come on?

The mind is like a clock that is constantly running down. It has to be wound up daily with good thoughts.”

Fulton J. Sheen

 

How do you wake up in the morning? It is, without a doubt, seemingly obvious question after reading this intriguing quote hovering above these words. It is a serious question all the same. So, take a minute and think about a few things: 1. Are my first thoughts of the day of dread or inspiration? 2. Do I look forward to the day’s events? 3. Do I loathe or cherish my interaction with others?

Seriously, think about the answers to these questions.

If you answered in the positive: you are attempting to live your life in a way that greets the world with both an open mind and heart. It is important to maintain this positive outlook with self-affirmations and positive self-talk, which will breed positive action and create desired results.

For those who answered in the negative: not to worry! We are all in this life together to; hopefully, pull each other up and out of these negative thoughts. I remember times in boarding school where I would wake up and absolutely dread the thought of the forthcoming day. That’s because I didn’t have the proper tools to look positively on the day ahead.

What do you mean by tools?

I’m talking about the tools to think positively and change the old self-talk monster into a manageable and friendly ally. Some tools that you can use:

  1. Self-affirmations- actively encouraging yourself by saying positives things about yourself.
  2. Become an active participant in your own life! – Like the movie “yes man” adequately demonstrated the power of ‘yes’. Don’t shy from life, because that way you lose out. All too often I said no to things, because I was waiting for something better that, often times, would never come.
  3. Associate with positive people- I couldn’t figure out why my mood was so down back then, because I never imagined the answer would be found in the circle I associated with. Find people who support your dreams, give freely of themselves, and love unconditionally.
  4. Take pride in you- often times I treated my body and mind disrespectfully, because I did not cherish my own self-worth. By that I don’t mean I cut or was deeply disturbed, but I mean I ate unhealthy foods and constantly put myself down. In the struggle for acceptance we lose our value by calculating it by the acceptance of our peers. Not so my friends. Take pride in all that you do, because you know at the end of the day whether you performed or not.

So, my friends don’t let the clock of your positivity run down to zero. Let us remind ourselves that our worth is nothing that can be labeled on us. Wind yourselves up with happiness instead of coffee and morning traffic.

You are capable of a better life.

Positive Quote of the Day: Challenges are an opportunity not an obstacle.

“When faced with a challenge, look for a way,
not a way out.”
David Weatherford

I was talking with a good friend yesterday and we consistently struck upon a chord that rang to the tune of “I have too much to do, and not enough help”. Now, this particularly harsh toned note sounds all too familiar, no?

Too often do we find ourselves hung up on the mere idea of facing the mountain of problems to be conquered.  But, like Don Quixote we must face the giants that, to us, are both perceived and real. Like valiant knights we must ride the steeds of our courage and fearlessness into the battle of daily life. Even with Don Quixote’s’ quirks and oddities he had a conviction seldom few of his peers had.

He was committed to his goals.

So, when you see your challenges in front of you often times we only have two options: 1. Run or 2. Stay and fight the good fight. Yes, you may end up like Icaras of old, but that person looking you back in the mirror will respect you for having tried.

Stay and fight the good fight, and solicit help when needed.

As a young adult male I find it difficult to overcome the “lone warrior” syndrome and wanting to be the man to conquer the world by himself, but that my friends is one of the greatest fallacies we can invest in. Even a simple gesture of reaching out your hand can open a doorway you never thought possibly. Do not let your pride cause you to sink with the ship, Jesters and Harlequinns.

“Where there is a will there’s a way” as they always say. And that, my friends, is the essence of my message to you today. You have all the necessary tools, you have the talent, and you have options to conquer your own ‘windmill giant’. Venture out into the stormy seas for there you will end up exploring your inner most self.

Now repeat after me:

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I am ready to fight for my future.

I can do anything.

I will ask for help when needed.

Challenges are opportunities.

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Now, go out and conquer you world.

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The Child of the 90′s and What I will Never forget.

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I do not own this picture

It seems an interesting to look back at one’s childhood and remembering the small items that shaped into what it was. And I now by writing these words the all-to-familiar visuals of childhood romping grounds come flooding back like a great tidal wave. I am writing this as much to dip my cup in the well of remembrance as much I am encouraging you to look book on some fond moments of your life. It would be foolish to think all of our memories are as perfect a scene as Julie Andrews singing with her children in ‘The Sound of Music’, but all the same life as we now it know wouldn’t be what it is without them. Here is my quick list of life lived through a child of the 90′s eyes:

  • Disney’s: Toy Story
  • Uno’s Pizza on 3rd St. Booneville, Indiana
  • Playing basketball against my Dad
  • Television Sets with only 10 channels
  • Tape players with built in radios (Fiddler on the Roof cassette tape)
  • Calvin and Hobbes
  • Having to sit at the dinner table until I finished eating my dinner
  • Going to the video store
  • Watching the, then new, Danny Glover Predator 2 and eating pizza
  • Meeting my dog Blue for the first time
  • Going to the bank and being utterly bored (not much had changed there)
  • Beer Claw Donuts and Chocolate milk after Tae-Kwon-do class Saturday mornings
  • Star Wars episode 1 with little Anakin “Annie” Skywalker
  • The YMCA summer camp

Again, I encourage you today to set aside a moment to think about the positive building “Lincoln Logs” that helped you develop into the fully functional, fantastic person you are today.